Raising the bar

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I need to get my confidence or boundires higher I think.

I am not prepared to settle for the man I've been dating, no offence to him but at 9mths it's dull/ he has money issues and I can do dull in my own! I'm ending it but that makes me a bit sad as he's kind and nice, but as a friend said nice isn't enough!
How do you have higher standards and not be a ppl pleaser?
I earn good money, own my own home outright, have a primary aged dc, study part time and have a handful of close friends. I'm a bit tubby but don't really care and do boxing/walking to keep active.

I only seem to attract men projects!

I'd write a list. Traits you definitely want in a man. Traits that you don't want.
I took a year off dating and it was the best thing I did as it made me realise that I could live quite happily by myself and didn't need a man. So when unsuitable men came along (they seemed ok initially) it didn't upset me to end a relationship because I knew I was alright by myself.

Thanks. I took time off after my ds dad cheated as it took a long time to be afloat.

List are good.. I think my biggest thing is not trying to change someone and think ohhh they can be better. It needs to stop.