Can you ever be to nice

[Vickimf]

Hi

I’m a women currently old other women so far I have been told I’m to steady and stable on one occasion and also on other nice etc.

I am wondering if I am doing things wrong or just not meeting the right ones. I am wondering if I should change how I act or just put it down to that it’s difficult for everyone now.

It depends what you mean by too nice. If you are being a people pleaser and letting your boundaries be trampled then, yes, that is “too nice”

but if you are just being your usual self and people you are dating want someone with more of an edge then leave them to it and wait for someone more suitable who will love you for who you really are.

What she said 👆

Just be yourself. Eventually someone will find you ‘just right’…Trying to be someone you’re not for other people - that way madness lies.

Someone told me there’s a difference between being nice and being kind and I think that’s true.

I agree with above that being a “people pleaser” is very different from being someone who is very kind, thoughtful but still has strong boundaries and stands up for themselves.