When to contact my ex about mail?

[Lucelove]

Hi once again!
I’ve (shamefully or not) posted so much about my breakup which I am really struggling with right now. I did have a package which was being delivered to his house which was on a subscription and didn’t think to change the address, but I was able to go on Royal Mail tracking and change delivery to collect from the post office. However it still got delivered to his house :/ minutes after I got a message from Royal Mail to say it was delivered, he unblocked my number and told me I had a package and letter come to his house and I can come and pick them up after work. I’m surprised by that as I didn’t think he would contact me, I thought most likely he would have rejected the parcel or probably leave it out the front for me, maybe give it to a friend to collect from etc.

I’ve told him I will let him know when I can collect it as I’m not at work until next week now (if you haven’t read my other posts, where we lived together and where I work is 60 miles from where I am now at my mums, and so I will only be able to get it on a work day).

As much as I will get berated for this, I do really want to be able to see him and speak to him. After how pathetic I was with continuing to message him and beg to fix things for almost a week, resulting in me being blocked, I think it’s important at the very least for my own dignity and self respect to hold off on messaging him for a little while and to show him that I can give him space and that I do respect his space, and that my head is now clearer - which it is.

My question is, would you just say fuck it and get the parcel now? Or if you really wanted to talk about things and possibly rekindle would you wait a few days to let it cool down further and text him about it and see if it opens up an opportunity to talk?

The advice I get from friends and family is conflicting and obviously very biased towards me.

Thank you! And thank you for everyone’s amazing replies to me so far on my previous threads <3

Just to clarify, you have already replied to him to say you will arrange next week to collect it after work? If so then thats what you do, theres no reason to message him in the meantime. If you decide for whatever reason to collect the parcel beforehand msg him to say so, but dont build it up to be anything other than collecting the parcel, for your own sake. Its unlikely he will be there in person given how things ended tbh

Oh dear, this will not end well. I would personally, contact him and ask him to send the package to you (provide him with a prepaid return label). It’s over, let him go.

Don’t put yourself through this. He knows how you feel you don’t need to spell it out, again.

Honestly OP he’s made it very clear that he doesn’t want any contact with you. As hard as it is you need to draw a live under this and leave him alone.

Could you ask him to forward the parcel to you or is it too large? Otherwise is there a friend or family member who could collect it from his house? You going will spell absolute disaster.

Oh no. No no no.

Message him and tell him to leave it outside in a safe space on the day you can collect it.

This will not be an opportunity to rekindle your relationship and if you approach it as such you will make a massive idiot of yourself.

Your dignity is worth more than any parcel, I’d leave it. Either forfeit the parcel or make arrangements for a friend to collect.

No, you'll just annoy him by making him hold onto your parcel for days.

Go get it. Don't try to force a conversation he doesn't want while you're there.

I would ask a local friend to collect it and get it from them.

Then make sure nothing else accidentally gets delivered there.

He doesn't want to rekindle things though, you might but he doesn't. Just leave him alone and stop getting things delivered to his house, I'm not buying it was accidental, it was intentional and it won't work

Omg you want to rekindle after the man blocked you. You've already begged and pleaded and then he blocked you and you're still looking for a way in? OP pls do not do this to yourself. Just pay and get him to fwd the stuff on. Otherwise just go and collect when you Said you would and have him leave it outside somewhere for you. Christ on a cracker have some self respect.

I went to get it today and after I told him to leave it on the doorstep and I’ll collect it he told me he missed me and wants to talk see if we can fix this. I am wary, but will just see what happens after today I suppose. And it was absolutely accidental! I might be a little crazy but I’m not crazy enough for that 😶

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