How much house work ?

[KangarooKenny]

Somebody wrote in a thread yesterday, about a 20’s something DD living at home, that she should clean her bathroom every week as part of her contribution to the house. Now me and DH have separate bathrooms and I clean mine weekly, but he does his when he can be bothered, every 3-4 weeks. It’s the only cleaning he does, along with the odd load of washing, mowing the lawn (no other gardening) and dinner 3 nights a week. That’s it. I do everything else.
Part of me thinks it’s his bathroom and he should be able to do it as often as he sees fit ( I occasionally use it and would be embarrassed if a guest went in there ), but part of me thinks it should be done weekly like I do the rest of the house.
What do you think ?

I’ve seen some of your previous threads and, honestly, he sounds awful and you (understandably) sound miserable. Life is too short for this sort of nonsense.

LTB.

I am miserable. We had a fantastic marriage and I adored him, but the MH problems, drinking and lack of sex brought resentment. Then peri kicked in for me.
As a child of divorce it’s not what I want for mine, but they’re nearly all grown up now so it won’t affect them too much, I hope. I did actually ask him to go once, but he just didn’t and Xmas approached so I left it, and we’re still here.
Honestly, owning your own home and not being married is the way forward IMO.

Oh okay, this isn't about the bathroom or house work at all. Much bigger issues. Focus on those not the state of his toiletseat, and all the best with getting rid.

Well there is a certain level of cleaning to maintain the room. Surely if there isn’t regular cleaning there would be a build up of limescale, scum on the shower door, mould etc. I think he should take better care of the house - ‘his’ bathroom included.

I own my home and live in it with just my children and I have to say it is complete and utter bliss. Its exactly how I want to be, my children are careful and clean up after themselves (mostly), its peaceful all the time. Between work, hobbies, pets and kids its busy enough, I honestly feel such contentment its almost alarming.

Recently considered dating again, but as like you I'm now in peri and sex drive has all but disappeared, I couldn't for the life of me find a good reason to bother. In fact the thought of a sweaty man body around my home taking more than he can conceive of giving, and feeling entitled too, filled me with dread.

I have some friends with good partners who seem to pull their weight, but its not been something I have found. Perhaps one day when the kids have left I might feel more inclined for the like minded company of someone in a similar position. But for now, I do highly recommend not putting up with someone who is making you miserable. We only have this one life as far as we know, and unhappiness seems like such a waste of it.

Oh op. You’re not going any where are you? Sigh.