There's more to life than love, right?

[AWonderfulNewName]

I have been divorced for 2 years. Very happy and content - working on myself, planning my amazing future and living with my 2 DC. Somehow in my head I decided that I won't be ready to date til' next year when I have accomplished a few more things and enjoyed being single and free for a while longer.

A couple of months ago I met a guy. Nothing happened but we had a wonderful evening out together and the next day. There was a bit of a spark and he was so so nice to me, that made me feel like I'm 18 again. Turns out he is not exactly single and we remained friends. Took me a few days to get over him and now I am totally cool. However...

I am feeling so lonely now. I suddenly realised what I'm missing and now all I want is to fall in love with someone amazing. It's like - everything I do is with a view of my future relationships. I go to gym - to look great for a guy. I work on my career - to impress my future bf. etc.

I realise how pathetic this whole thing is. I'm having a word with myself every day. I'm in my 40s and not exactly Kate Moss - so there is a chance I will be single forever and I need to accept this as a possibility.

How do I return to that peaceful state again? How do I tell myself there is more to life than love?

The honeymoon phase is just that, the daily grind can be far far worse than single life. I’m a similar age to you and enjoying the novelty of pleasing only myself.

There isn't more to life than love. But dogs, friends and children provide a better quality of love than men, usually.

I think there are benefits to both. I can't wait to be living by myself and legally single again, but I'm sure there are times I'll be lonely. You never know what's around the corner though, I know people who have met their life's love in their 50s and 60s, and beyond! X

l am sure you will feel those feelings again with someone else, and feelings of lonliness come and go whether your in a relationship or not, its like any other feeling they all ebb and flow, we are designed to feel a whole spectrum of emotions.
My way of thinking is that l have my own back,.l do my own thing, and if l meet someone its a bonus, but l' ll be ok whatever.