C section worry - no horror stories please

[trutabish]

I’m very anxious. Please don’t post unless it’s something positive as I am aware of the downsides hence my anxiety.

For mental health reasons I have elected to have a c section. I am terrified. My partner is not around so a friend will be with me. I am so stressed and worried and feel like such a wimp. I always wanted a natural birth so already feel dreadful. I know c section isn’t the easy option at all but it’s not what I wanted, I just can’t cope mentally.

Please can I hear anything reasuring about c section?

id be grateful if people didn’t debate vaginal v c section to discourage a c section as this has now been decided. Thank you xx

My DiL had an ELCS - (anxiety rather than a medical physical reason)
I am sorry to say I was a bit judgey (only behind her back though)
I really had to eat my words as it was such a smooth stress free process for her / the dad and baby
I certainly was proved wrong!
Good Luck!

@trutabish hi I am due my c section on the 8th Sept so a few weeks away and I am also terrified so I know how you feel. I'm sure we will be fine.

My planned section was like a dream compared to the emergency one I had 2 years earlier. The recovery was so much easier with a planned section. I felt stiff like I couldn’t stand up straight because of the scar. But take it easy and I’m sure you will be fine. The major difference is how aware I was of what was happening compared to the emergency. I felt the bonding etc was better in the planned because I wasn’t ill!

@trutabish I hear you. I have a bad case of tokophobia, everything to do with pregnancy and birth petrifies me and I have a lot of anxiety about it just thinking about it. It's hard on women. The older generation I think had less info and in many ways I think that was probably easier. Now so many scary videos of women in agonising labour, with forceps or undergoing abdominal surgery scares the hell out us! I am not sure I actually can put myself through it, especially as I already have pelvic pain. But I do know a lot of women who are back to work and totally in love with their new lives as mums, so I guess the important thing is to focus on the positives.