Anyone else’s DM like this re care

[Honeysuckle9]

My DM had a hard time raising us. Husband left her, low paid job etc
She did her best in difficult circumstances.

She could always be a bit self absorbed, and resentful of what she had to do for us, but she was exhausted much of the time.

However she now has decided she will show no more care. So she will never call me but will expect me to call daily , she won’t ever ask about me and the kids but will expect me to run around after her and anticipate her needs. It’s weird and feels a bit one way - are all mothers like this once they turn 70

Has she actually said that she intends to “show no more care, in those words?” Could it be that she feels many of her relationships have been quite one-sided, with her making all the effort (even if this wasn’t necessarily the case) and this is her way of trying to see if people actually care enough about her to think about and contact her off their own back? It sounds like reactionary behaviour, either to something real or something imagined. Could there be an element of depression in there?

@ComtesseDeSpair i think you really hit on it there. She gave a lot to people but in quite an intense way and she tended to overstep which resulted in people pushing her away.
That viewpoint is very helpful