Is he serious about me?

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My guy friend has told me he is being a gentleman with me even though he is very tempted. Does that mean he sees me as something serious? Usually in the past he has rushed into relationships but got hurt because he didn't get to know them properly whereas with me we have a connection and are getting to know each other but there is no rush.

Ask him?

Could be a line he says.

So he’s tempted not be gentlemanly to you - to me I instantly thought he’s just saying that In order for you to agree to rough sex. I don’t see that line as being he wants to get to know you and build a deep thoughtful relationship. if this was the case why did he say that I’m being a gentleman. Weird

He says 'i'm being a gentleman' to plant the seed that makes you associate him with being a gentleman (and therefore more interested in him and therefore more likely to have sex with him, eventually). It's a devious tactic.

He's messing with your head. Chuck him back in.

he wants you to seduce him so that he can blame you when he gets what he wants and disappears... I was being a gentleman! you wanted it/ pushed it!

If you're having to post on a forum rather than feeling able to ask him how he feels, then it doesn't matter if he's serious. A serious relationship to you will feel that you can say/ask what you want/need to, right from the start. Find someone whose intentions and feelings are clear to you, and you won't have a relationship that feels like a puzzle and leaves you feeling insecure because you don't feel sure/confident in him communicating his feelings.

It could mean all sorts of things. Easiest to not try and read his mind and just ask him to explain

Are you dating or friends?

If you're friends I suspect he's said that because he doesn't fancy you.

If you are dating then it's just weird and I'd take it as a sign that he has low sex drive and we're not well matched.

“My guy friend has told me he is being a gentleman with me even though he is very tempted. Does that mean he sees me as something serious? ”

That’s not how I would see that, no.

I see it as he’s just got a gap in his shagging dating life and is testing the waters with you and/or planting the seed in your head that even though you’re mates he’d do you if you let him.

Decent men don't tell you they are a gentleman they just act it. It should be a given. I would run.

Sounds like he could be stringing you along

10/10 for effort, they guy is smooooth I’ll give him that!

Be careful though op, it could be “a line”. See how it goes. Do you like him?

'tempted' is about sex.

Yeah totally agree I’ve had this line used on me before many times…guys who are serious about you, are straightforward about it. I think this is a massive red flag and I’d walk away.

Sounds like a line to draw you in for casual sex.