Why would someone ignore you but…

[gertyu]

Not block you?

My ex, with whom I have a child, refuses to speak at all about anything. I text before birth, when they were born, about maintenance, then about nursery… it’s 18 months on and the messages deliver and he blanks me.

I am aware I should leave it but before I went to CM I wanted to give him opportunity to discuss. Likewise with nursery etc.

I am not bothered about it in the sense of I long to hear from him but I’m genuinely bemused as to why he wouldn’t either say 1) please don’t contact me or 2) block me, which he knows how to do.

Again I don’t need advice on ‘letting anything go’, I’m not in love with the guy just genuinely curious as to what makes someone behave like that?

If it was me I’d just respond or be clear I didn’t want to hear these things unless it’s an emergency for instance or just block. This is a highly educated man who is quite capable of being rational and sensible.

I do this, its conflict avoidance no answer IS an answer, I don't need to get into a debate which is what will happen if I answer. He's not blocking you because he doesn't care enough to block you, he's probably enjoying that you keep giving him the attention.

"he's probably enjoying that you keep giving him the attention."

This in a nutshell! He couldn't care less about you or the baby! To someone like you - that's so difficult to fathom
The reason he hasn't blocked you? - that in itself would be sending you a message. He doesn't even want to give you that much.

Forget about him. Live your best life.

I actually wouldn't send any last text - letting him know you won't be texting him again!
He doesn't deserve it - by you doing this - will be you taking back control!

I have a family member who does this. I guess they haven't blocked me incase I have very important news for them.

Actually, they may have blocked me now, for all I know because eventually I get up messaging them