Been with hubby 7 years, married 5 but over recent few weeks I feel like he's suffocating me. He's all over me like a rash, constantly wanting my attention and sex, and saying he wants things to go back to the way they were when we first met, bare in mind have 3 kids, 1 from my previous and twins, we both work, I do the majority of housework and carting the kids around to their out of school activities.
He's always asking who's texting me when my phone goes off, I can't have a phone conversation without him chipping in and I very raely go out and do anything for myself. He's a home bird, never wants to go out, even just the 2 of us, doesn't have a friendship circle outside of work, and by his admission he's not willing to go out a find one (he's not originally from this area and doesn't speak to anyone from his own area anymore). It all came to a head the other week when he asked who a fella was, someone I worked with and all messages were work related, turns out he has been going through my phone, but not just on this one occasion, on a regular basis over the years. He even brought up something from over 6 years ago which he's never mentioned before from when I was away with work, predominantly male environment due to the nature and one of them wanted paracetamol, in hubbies eyes something untoward happened. He even opens my post, which I caught him doing last week and his response was he didn't know what it was, we have different first initials....
I no longer speak to anyone from my past, only people I've met since I've been with him because he didn't like them, and I've also found out he used to do this with exes, the topic of his exes ha always been off the table between us but he throws mine in my face (eldest's dad), and the one ended up cheating on him.
If we talk it always leads to arguements, I try and have my point he shuts me down, I can't get a word in edgeways and he uses my mental health cndition as leverage so I give up and end up agreeing or just shutting down, and he pushes his opinions on people in this way as well, he's very opinionated. He also tells me ot to discuss things with anyone because he doesn't want to look bad.
I feel like I've just verbally vomiting on this post, but I don't know whether I feel lost, annoyed or have no feeling at all on the matter. I want to stand up to him, have my say and for him to listen and put steps in place, but he rake's up my the past, whether he was in it or not (says he doesn't hold grudges) and he's very good at turning things around so they're not his fault. What do I do?