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Friendship

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Spooked102 · 16/08/2022 20:55

i Need to know if I’m being unreasonable. Me and what I thought was a best friend of mine have two sons the same age. Always invited her son To my child’s birthday party’s. she had one this year for her son ( I’ve known her about 2 years) she didn’t invite us the year before due to COVID restrictions at the place she had it at. fair enough, she then came to my los ( we had it in my garden) she’s not invited us this year either, and had a big party and splashed it all over Facebook, I’m actually upset we didn’t get invited and don’t think she’s a good friend anymore, I invite her to a lot of things but it’s never the other way around. I don’t get why she didn’t invite us, I don’t want to ask either. I’m the type of person that when someone upsets me I just end up cutting them off to save confrontation/arguments. I don’t think she’d care if I told her I was bit hurt over it either. Should I just cut the friendship off? Or am I being petty/ childish

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AnneLovesGilbert · 16/08/2022 21:01

You think the two of you are closer than she does. As you say, it was already one sided before this latest party. You also don’t think she’d care if you told her you were upset so she’s not adding much to your life and she certainly doesn’t think she’s your best friend.

oopsfellover · 16/08/2022 21:05

Cutting the friendship off sounds a bit drastic but it does sound as though you need to adjust your expectations of her a bit. Presumably you sometimes do nice things together? Not a best friend though.

LilliaJones · 16/08/2022 21:10

I personally wouldn't cut off a friend just because they didn't invite my child to their kids party.

Maybe if you're 'best friends' she just thinks it's obvious you would come? Especially if it's all over Facebook.

Maybe it's a family only thing
Maybe she doesn't want you there (a bit gutting but you can't invite everyone
Maybe she hasn't got round to asking you yet.
Is she friends with anyone you don't like so saving run ins?
Does your son and her son get on well as a whole or so they fight?

A lot more possibilities than she just purposely left you out.

Or just ask her.. can I get your DS something his birthday, what voucher would he like? And then that may prompt an invite. *
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