Am I going crazy one upper friend?

[SpiritedAway22]

Just wondering what's everyone's take on this as I feel like I'm going slightly crazy.

If I do something, or say something my friend will copy me or do the same thing within the same day-couple of days.

Say I go somewhere specific like a museum or restaurant she'll do the same.
Say I bring up my poorly family member she'll start going on about her family member being poorly and it's always has to be worse.
If I have a tooth ache, hers will be worse.
Say I put a thing on Facebook about the school hoildays, within 5 minutes they are posting the same thing.
And so on. Always without fail.

Am I going crazy?! Am I looking into this to much? How do I deal with this as I'm tempted to delete my social media over it.

I had this once. I backed away.

Retreat and delete.

Minimise what you tell her if you go out for a meal tell her you went somewhere the opposite of where you actually went ,don’t give her any room to find out anything much about you .

I had this. I stopped posting anything and stopped telling her stuff. Stated spending time with people who already had lives and interests.

I’d have so much fun with her.
I’d have her running around and spending lots of money pointlessly.

Do you actually discuss all of this stuff with her or just over social media? You don't need to live your life on social media for a start. Life still carries on regardless.

Secondly, just stop telling her stuff. She how much she brings to the conversation etc. You'll probably find not a lot. Stop spending as much time with her.

Start telling her you’ve done things or been to places that you know she’d hate. See if she still copies you.

I was thinking that but didn’t want to admit it 😅

Me too 😁

Hire a Ferrari for an hour or two, tell her you saved all your life to get one, only drive it occasionally and keep it in storage.

Let's see if she buys one of those buggers!

Exclude her from seeing your Facebook posts. She will still be friends with you, she just won’t see them

So would I. Starting with fake tattoos.

Delete the friend

🤣🤣🤣

i agree with everyone who says make this up, sit back and enjoy.

and after it’s done, you could always say how you changed you mind.

She is what is known as an elevenerifer. If you've been to Tenerife, she's been to elevenerife.

I would also start messing with her because I'm petty! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Same, dunno why people don't do this. I'm waiting on someone to do this to me, I'll bloody bankrupt them if they are that stupid. 😂

I rarely post on social media. It's over conversation.

I'm definitely going to stop telling her anything as it's really weird behaviour. But the tattoo is golden, I'm going to tell her i got a SpongeBob SquarePants tattoo first on my wrist see if she copies! 🤣 why didn't I think of that!

I had a friend like this who copied everything down to my hair colour, bought the same jewellery as me and when her partner proposed she swapped the ring for one like mine. I didn't tell the truth about anything, told her fake tales of what we did at the weekend and fake holiday plans which she copied. It's so draining, and concerning that people do it. You can back away and tell her less or you can make stuff up so she isn't actually copying your life

Ooh - what about buying a really short wig, posting a pic of yourself in it with ‘Well - I actually did it!’ or similar caption. Then wait until she’s had all her hair cut off before you post the follow-up pic with the wig in your hand and ‘Only joking!’

Yes, weird behaviour.

I knew someone like this - I happened to know a neighbour of hers and a school mum friend of hers. Same tale but a few years apart - copying everything and then when that didn't give her enough supply she started making things up for sympathy.

You could manage it by not telling her anything meaningful about your life or have some fun and make things up for her to copy but I would really question what you get out of the friendship, as I can't imagine either of these would be much fun beyond the short-term. I would retreat.

I'd have some fun with it too!

Following to see if she gets a SpongeBob tattoo 😂😂

I would say don't mess with her head like that, just back off slightly. It makes me uncomfortable when this happens, I generally say less. Someone I knew would do this as I think she saw it as complimentary and then when she was moody about something she would expressly do the direct opposite of me. It was too weird for my head and I backed away.

Spongebob tattoo and green hair, brilliant! Also tell her you're getting a really dark fake tan (could edit the light on a photo and post it) and painting your living room orange.

And planting a bamboo hedge in your garden.