DS got cheated on

[MeganC23]

So my son is 25 years old and about 1 year ago he found himself a woman, before her he never had a girlfriend and I can understand why he hasnt had much luck with women because hes a quiet man (also on the autism spectrum)

when I met the woman that he was dating she seemed like a nice girl, I also noticed that my son was happier and more confident as he was dating this woman.

But he just told me eariler today that this woman he was dating cheated on him. Apparently he found her cheating on him with not just a man but a couple (man and woman) so he caught her having a threesome with a couple, The man also was her Ex.

She started saying to him that she was drunk and was pressured into it but my son ended the relationship (and rightfully so).

But he is starting to feel like he is not good enough for a woman and is scared to date again because he doesnt want to be cheated on again.

I feel sorry for my son because he's a great catch honestly and has alot of attractive traits, he has a good paying job and has also told me that he wants kids someday.

I don’t think there is really much you , other than be there and lend a sympathetic ear, be supportive etc, if he is a good guy, I’m sure he will find someone decent.

I did once read a statistic that in the under 30 age range it’s acwomen who cheat more than men, but that’s cold comfort really.

Bless him that sounds really traumatic. As previous poster said just be there for him and encourage him to stay positive. His perfect partner is out there and won't treat him so horribly...

Just explain to him that that is life. Most people get their hearts broken at least once in life, and that often involves cheating.

Tell him it's normal to be upset and get him a few treats - take him for dinner or rent a funny movie or take him to do something he loves. When he feels ready, he can start dating again.

My brother had this. Was treated like crap by a couple of women in his 20's and it put him off women for life. I think he is on the spectrum somewhere too. He's very high functioning if he is but things get to him. I don't think there's much you can do except be there for him.

I’m sorry he’s going through this. He just needs time, it’s all so fresh so he needs time to process it. All you can do is be there for him, listen to him and at times try to distract him to keep his mind off of it.