Looking For Advice

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Hi, so my (21F) boyfriend (26M) have been together for 2 years and he asked me to marry him about 3 days ago, and I said no. I said no because I am not ready. Fast forward I want out of the relationship. I want to move back to my parents house and leave this all behind. I know it seems unfair and a bit brutal, but I have been feeling like this for a while. I have tried to break up with him before but he just cries and begs me to stay so I give in. This time I have made my mind up, I just don't know how to do it. I can't bare the thought of hurting him but I know this is what I want. So my question is, how do I do it? what do I say?

We also live together and have 2 dogs, another reason why I feel like I can't leave.

If you’re not happy and don’t want a future with him then you’re doing the best thing for you and him.
He wants it all with you so will be upset but at times you need to be cruel to be kind. Could you pack a bag and have it ready in the cupboard. Even just an overnight bag. Then sit him down and speak tk
him, tell him you are not happy, don’t want to lead him on and need some space. Explain you are going back fk your parents and think it will be best to end the relationship. He will get upset, he will ask you to stay but you need to be strong. Say you will speak to him in a few days time, that way you can arrange to collect and move more of your things. When you do that, you should take a friend or family member with you for support.
I totally understand how difficult it will be with the dogs. My friend ended up sharing we dogs with her ex, swapping them each week until it no longer worked and he kept both dogs. That is something you can work out but not straight away.