Is this unusual?

[NameChanger567]

I started trying online dating again recently. I ask them if they want to meet for drinks and they reply something like 'sure but before going for a drink, we can go for a walk'.

Is it unusual for them to want to go for a walk first before meeting at a bar for drinks? I thought that I could just meet them at a bar. A few of them that I have spoken have said that.

Why could it be? Is it unusual?

Are they trying to save money? Make a descision on you before they spend anything.

(I'm hoping that's what it is because my mind originally felt like this was a bit sinister)

I don't know. But I'd worry that they were messaging and dating loads of women and therefore want a free date before committing to drinks. Eugh.

I'd insist on drinks or nothing, in nicer words of course. If they're genuinely interested in your profile/finding someone, then surely they'll risk a few drinks.

With meeting for drinks there might be the potential awkwardness of who pays for what, so maybe a walk could be better?

Maybe they don’t like drinking much? I’d rather go for a walk first tbh.

It's really common now and actually my preferred approach. It's being referred to as "date zero"

A chance to check each other out to see if you want to make the effort for a date. Much more relaxed and can last as little as 10 mins if you're not feeling it

When you do then have your first proper date you know there is already a mutual interest irl. Can take away some of the nerves and pressure

I always preferred a walk for a first meet.

1. Feels less like a job interview sitting opposite each other scrabbling around for small talk if you're a little nervous.

1. It's easier to talk and walk, point out things along the way, say hi to dog walkers, nod at approaching joggers, laugh at random toddlers trying to take you out on a balance bike.

1. Normally a coffee shop in the park if things are going well you can suggest a pit stop.

1. If they're not going well, once around the park and you're back at your car "lovely meeting you, take care!" and you're off.

But also, he might just be worried you'll suggest an expensive cocktail bar and if you're meeting several people a month that starts to get expensive, particularly if he's the old fashioned type that never let's a woman pay in the first date.