How would you feel if your friend/ cousin turned down an invitation to your wedding?

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I have been/ will be invitited to three weddings (two friends, one cousin) and wothout going into too much details, I don't think I can make it.
I have mental health issues and I’m single/lonely, I just don’t think I can survive them.

Have you had friend/relative turn down an invitation?
How is your relationship now?

I've turned down many an invitation to a wedding and I get on very well with those people, it's nothing to worry about generally. If you're feeling rubbish mentally you may be assuming that declining is worse than it is. You'll be ok, it's an invitation, not a court summons! Hope you feel better soon.
Take care of yourself.

Oh, thank you so much @Crucible!
That’s a relief.

Just decline gracefully. No reason is needed.

I've skipped a few weddings for various reasons and I've never had any long term repercussions.

That they can’t come. It’s OK. Let them know, if they have an issue then they are the dick. Feel better soon.

Happens all the time.

I had a beautiful card with "Sorry to sadly decline your invitation due to health reasons, hope you have a wonderful day and wishing you well for the future", from my niece.

I was, of course, sad that she could not come, but it did not spoil our relationship.

"Health reasons" covers a multitude of conditions and saves having to go deeper.

No probs at all! I've always sent a small gift and a card if I can't make it, and I designate myself the person they meet up with after the honeymoon to have my ear bent on every detail of the wedding,
who got smashed?
who turned up in a hideous dress?
How much did we spend? Aaaah.

...the couple usually really appreciate offloading all that to someone who wasn't there, that's great fun!

You don't have to do that of course, there is no obligation.

Feel better soon.x

It depends if you have RSVPed yes or not - I’m currently in the position of people saying 4 days before the wedding that they can’t come and it’s costing me hundreds of pounds and leaving empty spaces at the tables, wasted food etc. If you have just received the invitation so far and haven’t replied yet it’s fine to decline 😊

Absolutely no problem at all, most people probably invite a few 'too many' people on the assumption that a few will decline. So long as you send a polite 'no thank you' then no one should object or feel snubbed.

Thank you all!

And @Gensola no I havent rsvp yet.
For two I’m supposed to answer soon, but I’ve been very nervous about it so haven’t done anything.

I had a pretty close friend turn down my wedding invitation and to be honest I was a bit hurt by it. I don’t have millions of friends and it wasn’t a huge “do”. It was a couple of years later that she told me that she had been in a bad way due to a bad break up.- she didn’t tell me at the time. It hasn’t hampered the relationship but it’s inaccurate to say that you wouldn’t be missed if you’re a close friend.

Of course people decline invitations they just can't fit in around other commitments . It's perfectly normal and nobody will even think twice. The refusal should be clear but you don't need to spell out reasons in detail

"So sorry, I won't be able to make it to the wedding on that date, hope you both have a lovely day and look forward to seeing the pictures".

Absolutely fine, people have stuff going on. I had lots of family and friends who couldn’t attend my wedding. My home country isn’t the UK so they would have had to fly here. Totally understandable. I still wanted to invite everyone so they knew they were included. The only one who annoyed me was the uncle who rsvped but just never turned up on the day.