So I had a long term relationship with a man I knew from a teenager about 15 years in total although we split after 6 years for about 5 years. We split because i wanted to travel and experience life and both of us went on to have relationships with others. When we got together again it wasn't without some angst as he had separated from his last gf and she still had a lot of contact with his family and I think enjoyed causing some awkwardness. Anyway we stayed together for about 10 years in which time he cheated on me ( in retrospect I realised this was a more frequent thing than I thought at the time). Eventually we split as he met someone at work, still some back and forth and he 'cheated' on her with me at one stage, but eventually it ended. I found out later he apparently had a one night stand with someone shortly after we split for good and while apparently with her. So it's been years since this happened and they went on to marry and have a family and seem to be very happy. They work in the same building and live together and he is faithful. I recently met an in law of his who i got on with at the time and it seems his now wife doesn't put up with his family's bs, and most likely his. I got on with them all quite well and never really had any issues. So I'm thinking is it because I was too laid back and undemanding that I got treated so badly. I haven't had a relationship since because I have no trust in myself or anyone else for that matter. Please don't think im looking for sympathy I'm not, as really I love my own company and honestly cba with looking for or having a man in my life now. But i would be interested to hear others stories and opinions on this, if you've experienced similar, or what your view is on this kind of situation. Just saw something the other day about learning to prioritise yourself, and I've always taken the easy road to avoid arguments/difficulties in life and want to learn where I've gone wrong so i can do better in all my relationships.