Age difference

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I have been in a relationship for nearly 1 year with a guy who’s 25 and I’m 29 October. its going good. we have had a few small conversations about settling down, children etc but with it still being early in our relationship didn’t think there was much need to discuss it. He recently confirmed that he doesn’t want children until his around 28/29 but for me I’ll be 32/33 and I’ve always said I didn’t want children after 32ish but that’s just me . I feel he has enough time to wait to start a family, I feel im getting close to that 30 is a big thing for me especially with no children yet , im unsure wether im making it a big thing when it doesn’t need to be?

Thanks for any advice

Why don’t you want children after 30? It seems a bit arbitrary to have just picked that number and be sticking to it; life doesn’t always go according to plans op

I think it's fair enough to say that timeline doesn't quite work with you. Maybe revisit the conversation in 6 months and see if you both feel the same.
Having a baby is something you both need to be in agreement on. But be slightly wary that he isn't just keeping you hanging.
30 is still young in terms of trying for a baby, but you're looking at maybe good fertility for a few years which does decline. People will tell you about people who successfully had kids in their late 30's and 40's (which they do) but if you have trouble conceiving your window to do anything gets smaller. I don't think it's unreasonable as a woman with a limited time to have a baby to prioritise that in a relationship.

3 years is hardly an age difference

I was your age when I got together with a 21-year old. We married 2 years later, and had our first child when I was 32.
Don't catastrophise, go with the flow if you love each other.
Are you seeing a mere 3 year age gap as a problem because you WANT it to be?

I can completely understand him wanting to be 28/29 before he has children, I don’t see any issue with a woman having children at 32/33 either but if it is a problem for you then you should probably not date younger men. I wouldn’t otherwise thing this age gap was any kind of an issue though.

I totally get the biological clock ticking at 30. However, unless you have known fertility issues, I don't think you need to focus on it yet. Enjoy your relationship longer, one year is nothing, and I'd say it takes at least 2 to know if its got potential or not. If things don't work out and you find yourself still childless approaching mid 30's it could be worth considering freezing some eggs at that point. Meantime, if you worry too much about it now, it could end up becoming a reason why you don't work out, he may not react too well if he starts feeling pressured by your timeliness, rather than enjoying or being in the moment. So relax for the next year would be my suggestion, you still have time.

I was 35 when I had dd. Dh was 27.
We didn't hang about with trying for a baby as my biological clock was in overdrive.
You do have time on your side.