My DH has form for saying really nasty things during arguments. We were arguing recently about my being unhappy with him turning a blind eye to teenagers leaving mess etc. I was asking him to step up and ask them to clear up as it shouldn't always be me.
He took this as a massive criticism, so a discussion turned to an argument. He said it makes him feel sick when I say I love him .
His rationale is because I asked something of him, that he's not doing them I can't love him, so saying it makes him feel sick.
He's now "sorry" after he's calmed down.
I've not said I love him since, around 3 weeks , I feel foolish to do this. if it's going to be thrown in my face.
This is a long line of very hurtful things he's said.
He's previously had counselling, where he was told he "verbally beats me up", was told how to deal with it, but over time had reverted back.
Should I move on and tell him I love him? I do love him, but I'm struggling with even the thought of saying it.