Totally alone - please chat

[Fivehearts]

Is there anyone else here who, for whatever reason, has ended up completely alone?
It's so painful.

Morning, sorry you're feeling so isolated.

I think alone comes in different ways. A relationship breaks down or your dcs are at their dads for the weekend.

What do you have planned for today?

Hope you’re feeling okay xx

hope you are ok - why do you feel
alone? As PP said we can be alone in many ways and feel alone in a relationship. I know i do. Do you want to tell us more about how you feel?

I'm here too OP. Is there anything you'd like to talk about?

Hope you're ok, do you want to tell us why you're feeling like this? Well done for reaching out x

My husband and both parents died within the last few years (I am mid 50s). No DCs. It’s hard but I wouldn’t describe myself as totally alone, but it’s because I work at it (which in itself is hard work but necessary).
I have tried various new activities, one of which has stuck and I now have a small group with whom I do this activity once a week and we usually have a coffee afterwards. Not friends yet, but on the way to being so I hope.
I also sat down a while ago and listed friends and acquaintances and I am making the effort to reach out and now speak too/see a few of them regularly and am working on nurturing relationships with some people from my past and present that I would like to know better.

It is bloody hard as several friends have moved or are planning on moving away. I have realised this effort may have to be lifelong as things change, so I have signed up for another new activity next week. Say ‘yes’ to things that you don’t necessarily fancy doing.

When I am feeling low (felt rubbish yesterday as a dear friend who had come to stay had gone home a couple of days before and back to being on my own) I write down what I am feeling, get it all out and then see what I can do about it. Hence booking new activity for next week.
Yes, it’s bloody tough, but I think many people find themselves here and if you learn how to address it/manage it when you are a bit younger you will have a very valuable skill. Good luck!

You are never totally alone. For one, there is a community here who are happy to talk and share worries and give advice that might just help.

Whatever your circumstances are right now, they can and will change. And there are things you can do to help that to happen, even if it doesn't change quickly. There is always hope.

Alone is lovely if you're in a self-supporting head space. The 'alone' isn't the problem.

What's making you so unhappy? What would company provide you with that you don't have now? Who are you missing?