I'm rather lost and looking for support. My DD (17) has just told me that last night she was raped by a man in a nightclub while she was drunk and he sober. We are on a family holiday abroad and both our teenagers have friends with them here. I have hugged and reassured her that this is entirely the perpetrators shame, none on her and that she did nothing wrong. I have asked her if she'd like to report it but she wants to "forget" it. I realise this is of course her choice though unlikely she will. I didn't say that last bit. I have also said that I'm here for whatever she needs and if she'd like to talk to a professional at home we'll set that up. I've said she can call it whatever she likes but in law it's rape. It was her first time, he used a condom. The part I need advice on is that she's asked me not to tell her dad who is with us here. I feel I must honour her decision but am frozen and tearful. I absolutely want to prioritise her but feel isolated and helpless. I don't want to tell anyone she knows i.e. my friends as it is hers to say what happens to her story. Sharing here anonymously feels like the safe option. Thank you.