Never feel good enough

[Kelly1991]

I never feel good enough for my partner I can't compete with all the thin pretty flawless women around wherever we go.
I wouldn't blame my partner if he cheated on me for being fat and ugly looking. Everywhere I go to I feel out of of place with my pregnant over weight body and ugly face that doesn't stand out. everything about me is Ugly some days I ask myself why my mum and dad decided to have me makes me feel very sad how I look some days 😢

So get help. You may be suffering Body Dysmorphic Disorder or something, which I believe CBT can help with.

You need to build up your self-esteem and try to accept your body with some professional help, I think - I mean, how do you feel about ageing? It's inescapable. Even if you were rake-thin, there's always going to be something to be critical of in any body. You don't want to spend your life feeling bad about yourself.

No I dont want the rest of my life feeling so miserable about myself. I look up to others with a positive image of themselves and wish I there mind sets mine is really bad its my own fault for comparing myself to other its very viscous circle that I've been in for a long time. I won't even book a holiday because of my weight I don't feel like I deserve to be seen half dressed in a hot country until I'm skinny.

Aw, that's no way to go on, OP.

You need to live your life, tomorrow isn't promised to you.

Thank you I'm been made to worry and feel bad about my weight. I told to cut back on calories and what to eat from staff nurse at work she's worried il put on to much weight no that it's her place to say anything it's in front of other staff that are so slim either find it unfair how my size matters but nobodies else's does.

Arent so slim*

Wow it’s always amazing how people feel they can come t so freely on others weight
imagine telling her she should cut back in the advice and get interpersonal skills because your worried about the effect her lack of empathy will have on her relationships with other ….
no one ever seems to questions these people who give unasked for advise on others bodies but they have serious issues with boundaries clearly

Others don't seem to think she's wrong to tell me what eat.

He does but can't help thinking some thinner pretty woman Is going to try and take my partner away for herself. we was away for a few days I felt conscious every time we went out at night like I was the ugliest woman in the room.

So what are you going to do about it?

I hope that you can see that:

• your body-hate is misplaced

• your body needs love and care because you're pregnant, and also because you deserve it

• people criticising your body are being destructive & harming your self esteem and need to stfu

• you don't want the same for your dc, so it's important you sort out your body issues to avoid passing them on & also protect them from negative voices

• your self-hate is harmful to your relationship

• if your partner wants to cheat, you being thinner or prettier wouldn't stop him. Chap cheated on Beyonce, didn't he?

• there's always someone thinner or prettier or younger

• this is stopping you leading a full life.

You need to get help with it.

I need help I know iv been told I'm ugly all throughout my teenage and adult life so how can I feel any differently. My sisters have always been told there pretty good looking etc I never had that.