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Mel32 · 13/08/2022 00:12

Looking for some advise... I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. During the summer holidays my 7 year olds behaviour has become very concerning. He doesnt seem to listen to what i say nor do i feel he has respect for me. I have been with my partner for 12 years and have always been spoken down to by him. He tells me its all my fault and am the problem. I feel so unsupported from my partner and feel we are not in the same team. He always speaks down to me and now i feel my 7 year has started to copy the way his father is to me. Im starting to think that maybe i am the problem. Ive just recently came off anti depressions due to being pregnant. My friends tell me to leave him but i can't build up the courage to do so. Some people will think am insane but i dont understand myself why i cant leave. I know this relationship is unhealthy and now seeing my son turn nasty against me has really hurt me. Please give me any advice as i can't live like this.

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Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 13/08/2022 00:34

oh wow I’m so sorry. It must feel awful to see the abuse affecting your sons behaviour. It’s an abuse of your son as well as you.

can You contact a domestic Abuse helpline or local service. Sounds like you need to talk to someone and get some experienced advice.

ultimately it sounds like you need to leave, however I understand that can be very hard to do.

Lozzerbmc · 14/08/2022 07:41

Thats awful but you do need this relationship to end. Your son is just learning the behaviour from his dad so your partner is teaching him abusive behaviour. Do you have any family who can support you?

category12 · 14/08/2022 07:50

I would sort out a plan to leave the relationship asap.

At least when you are apart, you will be able to try to combat the lessons his father is teaching him.

KangarooKenny · 14/08/2022 07:51

Yes, prepare to leave.

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