In a rut after ex affair, hard to move on

[Lonelyheartz]

My exdh had an affair and threw me crumbs which I foolishly took numerous times. He’s now back with OW.

I am so fed up. I feel stuck in a rut, overweight, depressed, obsessing over comparing myself to OW. How do I get out of this funk? I spend my child free time doing nothing as I don’t have the energy and im absolutely skint as well!! Can’t see a light at the end of this and feel stuck in the past, help me wise mumsnetters 🙏🏼

I'm so sorry OP, that sounds tough. I just wanted to bump this for you.
Have you had any counselling at all? Thrashing it all out with a neutral stranger might really help, particularly if you tell them you would like to move on with your life.

Heya

I was in your position and it's horrible it really is.

Do you have a hobby or anything you fancy taking up to do with your free time?

Hi,

thanks :) I have had counselling but had to stop it as I couldn’t afford it. I have put my name down for NHS counselling tho.

Sorry you’ve gone through the same thing chips, how far down the line are you now?
i don’t really have any hobbies, with work/studying/kids/housework there was never really any time to have a hobby.
i guess if money wasn’t an issue then my child free weekends would be more enjoyable