Lack of sex during the summer

[DaisyDooxox]

Hi all.

myself and partner were playfully messaging and he commented on how sex at the moment feels like a drought.

I thought he was referring to the fact that we’ve been around family a lot recently but he said it is because he doesn’t cope well in the heat.

I made the comment ‘sexless summer’. And he told me to be quiet as we are going away in a couple of weeks and that he hopes for some ‘action’.

im just left feeling like these are really mixed messages. Any help?

Have a conversation about it?

Get an air conditioning unit for the bedroom and shag away.

I don't see where the mixed messages are tbh.

It's hot and he doesn't do well in the heat so doesn't feel like sex - I'm with him on that one!

You're going away in a couple.of weeks when i think many of us are hoping it will be cooler. He is. He'll also be hoping that, as its cooler, he'll feel more up to sex and that you will have sex on holiday.

Or, you could just have a conversation 🤷🏻‍♀️

Its way too hot for sex, I'd die. I can't even get dressed right now.

Never too hot for sex 😁

That’s not mixed messages. He doesn’t cope in the heat but still wants sex!

Unless you have aircon its too hot for sex in the UK at the minute, you can’t want to have sex but not die of heat exhaustion in the process!

Sex is traditionally performed naked.

@SucculentSunshine

Don't complicate it

I meant what @SucculentSunshine says.

Don't complicate it!

So he feels like you're not having enough sex but then blames it on himself but then promises you that things will be different when you are away? I don't see the problem with this?

Just sounds like a bit of lighthearted chat to me. This wouldn't worry me at all.

I'm with him, it's too hot for sex. I do not want anyone to touch me.

I would be slightly concerned about a man not wanting sex because he was 'too hot'. Unless he has a heart condition of course.

It is too hot for sex. We're going away to stay in a Premier Inn next week and I can't wait to crank the air con and have a good fook.

Why specifically a man? Are men not allowed to want comfort when having sex?

Sod sex in this heat, neither DH or I are up for it. It’s horrible. Sounds like your DH is hoping it’ll be cooler where you’re going (or air con?) and you can enjoy yourselves again. Nothing wrong there.

Better to discuss your sex life face to face I think - texts can be misinterpreted and its harder to place them in context. Sex drought could be anything between a jokey reference to the weather and a quite wounding criticism of your DP - in a face to face conversation you can elaborate immediately but in a text that is not so easy.

I don't see a mixed message. Just a normal conversation. If you analyse and look for hidden meanings, you will find them, but not necessarily ones that actually exist.

If everything else is good, including communication, then I can't see a problem here.

Never too hot for sex. Get a fan. Or shower sex.

Thanks. I think I may have been over complicating things as usual. We had sex this morning. Very quick sex but still met my needs!

I would see it as humour perhaps and maybe embarrassment on us part because men are supposed to always be up for it.