Emotional Support from men?

[OhHelloFromTheOtherSide]

I’m going through a divorce after a long marriage and one of the (many) reasons that the marriage broke down was due to me not getting any emotional support.

Im not a needy person by any means but I’ve never felt comforted and heard and in really bad times my ExH would make out I was over sensitive and be quite harsh with me.

My Mum still says ‘well all men are like that’ , ‘what do you expect?’ Please someone tell me they are not and explain what emotional support from a husband looks like in a normal, healthy relationship…….

"How does he treat his granny? How does he talk about his colleagues? What happened when you cried? When your boss pissed you off? What did he say when you talked about your future family life together?"

All good.
My husband is fundamentally a good, caring, loving man. I could tell that and wouldn't have married him otherwise.
He is emotionally supportive on a basic level. But doesn't have the emotional intelligence to support me and our family as well as I would like with things like PND, a challenging child with suspected ND, etc.
I think it's often women who have the complex, advanced emotional skills to deal with this stuff best. It's a rare man who is able to deal with it so well, IMO.

But hey, let's just blame the women for choosing these men shall we 🙄