He doesn’t text me much anymore

[DaisyDooxox]

We are 5 months into our relationship.

We met online and so the texting was lots to begin with. He used to respond keenly and readily and the conversation used to be interesting and flirty.

5 months on, we see eachother midweek and weekends but when we are not together he doesn’t keep much contact.

His pattern is that he will text me a morning text, which is sweet. Then I get hardly any messages throughout the day. Then, at 5/6pm he will call and then I don’t hear from him until about 9pm. Then he doesn’t say goodnight and just falls asleep.

maybe I’m reading too much into this due to me being a teacher and being on summer holidays with barely anything to do. I just feel that the texting is less and less frequent and I’m not sure whether this may mean that he isn’t that interested.

All sounds way too needy to me. Why do you think you want so much text contact?

Sounds normal to me after the initial rush.

That's exactly the pattern of my relationship. We're 6 years in now, don't live together yet but spend 4 out of 7 nights together. A couple of messages a day when we don't see each other is normal for us

2 flurries of messages and 1 phone call sounds quite a lot to me. But then I never start an interaction/relationship with loads of messaging as I know it will never be maintained.

I’m reading this thinking it would be way too intense for me. Sounds like you have a lot of contact even now. What else would he possibly need to be in touch about when you speak every evening?

That’s sounds pretty normal after 5/6 months really.

Thanks all. I’m just glad to have realised that maybe this is normal.

I suppose it’s just that the texting has slowed down since the beginning of the relationship that worried me.

I really like him so I don’t want to mess this up by being too needy.

You have a lot of communication now already. You are just settling into a relationship. I would ask yourself why you need constant contact. Are you insecure about the relationship? Does he make you feel wanted otherwise? It would be awful to jeopardise what sounds like healthy relationship because you need a lot of text communication during the day.

That sounds loads.

Try and chill out.

Sounds way too much to me but I'm not mad on loads of texts - can't see the point of them unless there's something specific to say

You're being needy and unreasonable, sorry. The constant texting at the start cannot be sustained over time. It sounds like you are missing the first flush of your budding relationship. And I get that! But these things settle into something less intense and more relaxed as time goes on.