I’m 26, he’s 28. We’ve been dating for 5 months and he asked me to be his girlfriend.
My last relationship was 8 years long and we lived together for three years. He hasn’t had a serious relationship.
I feel like everything seems to be on his terms and I hang on his every word. He gave me lots of reassurance at first that he was in love, he was lucky to have me etc etc etc, but recently I can feel the tables turning where I feel more needy of him.
We often see eachother on weekends and Wednesday evenings. This week has been different which has triggered me.
On Sunday we saw my parents, on Monday his Dad came down and we went for some dinner. We also have planned on Friday going to travel to see his Dad for his Dad’s birthday. I called him yesterday and asked when we were next seeing eachother.
I was met with hesitation on the phone and he said ‘well I can see you tomorrow but it depends when I finish work’. This hesitation made me feel frustrated as we always see eachother on Wednesdays anyway, so I don’t understand how work came into the equation. So I just said let’s leave it until Friday.
He just called me at 4pm telling me he had finished work. I made a comment saying ‘it will be strange not seeing you tonight as it’s a Wednesday’ to which he responded ‘I know, you’ll miss me won’t you’. He then said he had to go food shopping. After that he asked me ‘what’s wrong?’ I said nothing was wrong. He then ends the conversation telling me he ‘likes me’ which is the jokey way in which we tell eachother we’re fond of eachother.
I guess I just hoped he would want to see me tonight. He has his own place and it’s me who drives over to him, so it’s hardly an inconvenience for him. I hoped he would want to see me, especially as we haven’t had any alone time in a while.
Part of me doesn’t want to message him lots tonight as he clearly doesn’t want me to come over. Part of me feels like I need to be colder with him in order for him to want me more.
I just don’t understand