Hi all.
I am 26, he is 28 and we have been together for 5 months.
He is quite an abrupt and sometimes sarcastic person who says what he thinks. In the beginning of the relationship, he showed this less but now it is showing more.
He is very independent and very honest about things - I just fear that maybe I’m overly sensitive.
Examples of this are:
- telling me if I have something on my face.
- I groomed his dog and he told me he didn’t like the cut.
- I helped him with the washing up and he told me I didn’t wash something properly.
- getting annoyed at me if I mishear him and then refusing to repeat himself - then jokingly commenting that I need a hearing test.
When he is sarcastic with me, I get the impression he thinks I’m stupid and he has commented that I can be ditzy.
I feel like I entered this relationship being the one to call the shorts, and now he seems on a pedestal and I am hanging on his every last word.
I jokingly say that as I’m his girlfriend he should be nicer to me, but he says that he doesn’t need to assure me or ‘blow my trumpet’.
He is very easy going about when we see eachother too - saying “I don’t mind” etc.
Its confusing to me as I obviously want to be treated sincerely by somebody. But the colder he is, the more I want him.
Even his dad said that he was abrupt, but “if he loves you, he’ll love you to the end of the earth and always protect you”.
I just don’t know how to act or feel and don’t want to get any deeper into this if I’m going to be hurt. At the beginning, and sometimes now, he tells me that he loves me and that he is so glad he found me. It’s just confusing.