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Surely he shouldn't have told me!

42 replies

PeeGlitter · 10/08/2022 11:29

Why would a man tell me he is very attracted to me and wants to pursue me, then in the next breathe tell me he can not?

Surely he could of just kept that to himself especially knowing I am very attracted to him also.

OP posts:
FetchezLaVache · 10/08/2022 12:39

In light of your drip feed update, it makes a lot more sense.

He's attracted to you, but has too much self-respect to go back out with someone who allowed her ex to split you up previously.

You might get the odd shag, OP, but otherwise I think you've burnt your boats here.

CrazyRatLover · 10/08/2022 13:44

He's just after an ego boost - nothing else!

Horoscopegubbins · 10/08/2022 13:49

Honestly, from what he's said I think he's just not that into you. That line 'you're so attractive but...' is a brush off.

OperaStation · 10/08/2022 13:54

PeeGlitter · 10/08/2022 12:03

He came on to me, we have been involved previously it didn't work out because my sons dad (expartner) intervened due to jealousy.

It's was over a year ago now, so we have history. There is still a connection, very strong connection. Lots of flirting, talking about life , etc .. we speak often but apparently it just cannot happen.

Is this the latest plot for eastenders? Your Ex intervened? What?

Opentooffers · 10/08/2022 14:06

Either you let your ex intervene, or he was not all that interested to let the ex have his way. But it depends on what the ex did and how you dealt with it. If it was the former, it shows him you are not independent enough from your ex to be in a place to have a new relationship so he'd be right to give you the swerve.
If things are now different with your ex and he no longer has power over you, you could try telling him circumstances have changed. However, it all could of been an excuse he used as not really that bothered.

blacksax · 10/08/2022 14:28

Oh just stop wasting your time on this dickhead.

Life is not like Mills and Boon. He's not going to suddenly realise that you're the love of his life and sweep you up in his arms for a Happy Ever After. He just wants an ego boost and a no-strings shag if he can get one.

BigFatLiar · 10/08/2022 14:49

You had a relationship but stopped it after your ex interfered so what hes saying is

Yes I still find you attractive but no I'm not going through that again.

Maymaymay · 10/08/2022 14:49

He wants to sleep with you without any strings.

BigFatLiar · 10/08/2022 15:00

PeeGlitter · 10/08/2022 12:03

He came on to me, we have been involved previously it didn't work out because my sons dad (expartner) intervened due to jealousy.

It's was over a year ago now, so we have history. There is still a connection, very strong connection. Lots of flirting, talking about life , etc .. we speak often but apparently it just cannot happen.

He still finds you attractive and fun but he doesn't want to be messed about again so he's ok where things are just now.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 10/08/2022 17:33

So that you will want him even more and when you do he can tell you he never promised you anything and he has the excuse to use you.

Inthesameboatatmo · 10/08/2022 20:09

He's married and what's a side piece that's all

BigFatLiar · 10/08/2022 20:18

Nothing to say he's married unless we assume every man that says no thanks to you is obviously married (or gay).

kateandme · 10/08/2022 20:29

Trying to find him innocent I’d say an intimidating ex is enough for anyone to not go there.

Supercalafragalisti · 10/08/2022 22:33

Is he religious?

Annoyedwithmyself · 11/08/2022 07:13

Aha. Yeah ok, so he might like you but personally I wouldn't be looking for a repeat of that either. How did your ex intervene? Keep the information he receives about your private life to a bare minimum from now on.

Aikko · 11/08/2022 08:10

PeeGlitter · 10/08/2022 11:29

Why would a man tell me he is very attracted to me and wants to pursue me, then in the next breathe tell me he can not?

Surely he could of just kept that to himself especially knowing I am very attracted to him also.

He's married or has a partner, and would love you as his piece on the side, no strings attached shag.
That's basically it.

BigFatLiar · 11/08/2022 08:27

Keep the information he receives about your private life to a bare minimum from now on.

Not easy when you share a child.

He's married or has a partner, and would love you as his piece on the side, no strings attached shag.

He's not in the least bothered about having already been dumped by her and her having a jealous ex. After all he's 6'6" and built like a body builder, an expert in martial arts, runs his own multi million international business and has lots of mistresses while his wife lives a hollywood lifestyle in their villa. Couldn't make it up, well lets face it OP has given very little info he rest is just people making up their own additions so why not make it better.

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