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Relationship problems

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abi9396 · 10/08/2022 10:03

My partner and I have a 6 year old son and due baby no2 in just 2 weeks. Recently we’ve not been getting along. He come in from work every day at 5 and sits on his phone or watches videos on there and don’t really make an effort to talk to me or our son. He’ll then disappear off to the bedroom for an hour then have a shower and come back into the family room and play his ps5 for the rest of the night. I feel like he don’t interact with our son, every time I do talk to him he’ll pause watch he’s watching and just makes me feel like we’re in the way. He goes to his friends house every Thursday straight after work and don’t come home until 9. Now they both are going to start the gym together 4 nights a week so he won’t be home until 7:30-8. He won’t see our son at all 5 days a week because by the time he comes our son will be in bed. I feel like I’m going to basically be a single parent 5 days a week. Saturdays my partner spends at his dads house so we don’t see him then either. He never wants to have date nights I always say shall we go out for dinner, cinema ect and it’s always no. The only time we actually go out as a family for a day out is 2 Sundays out of the month as that’s all he will allow.

I always support everything he dose and I’m happy for him if he wants to join the gym and have no problem with him going to his friends but I just wish he could compromise and go a few days a week just so I have some help during the week. Is anyone else in a similar situation

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Shoxfordian · 10/08/2022 10:18

Do you have any funds to move out? He’s not acting like your partner

Onandupw · 10/08/2022 10:19

You deserve entree than this OP

Onandupw · 10/08/2022 10:19

Better! But if an entree before main makes you happy then also do that 😁

PinkSyCo · 10/08/2022 10:25

Your ‘partner’ is a selfish pig. I mean really, what is the point of him? Tell him to buck his ideas up or he’s out and mean it.

Justcallmebebes · 10/08/2022 10:29

I would tell him he either needs to shape up or ship out as there's really no point to him at all the way things are now.

You say recently you've not been getting along. Were things different before this?

abi9396 · 10/08/2022 11:01

Justcallmebebes · 10/08/2022 10:29

I would tell him he either needs to shape up or ship out as there's really no point to him at all the way things are now.

You say recently you've not been getting along. Were things different before this?

yes things were different before now. He made an effort and now I feel like it’s all one sided. He’s more distant, I feel like we just live together and that’s it. I think trust is an issue too as a couple of months back I went on his phone and I know shouldn’t be snooping but found he had been having a bit a flirt with some stranger online and girl from Asia! . He said just a friend he had met online and that they had sent a picture of themselves to one another. I found messages from my partner saying that the time difference was rubbish because they didn’t get to talk all the time and that he missed her when she didn’t reply. There was also a message from her saying shall we have sex and him saying ohh yes please. But he insists it was only a joke.

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Opentooffers · 10/08/2022 15:19

Don't be surprised if despite going to the gym 4 x per week his fitness somehow doesn't improve. Are you sure he is where he says he is? It sounds like he is out of the house a lot, so plenty of opportunity to conduct an affair unfortunately. Sorry, but as this is a sudden change, it looks like his attentions have been diverted elsewhere. I hope you joint own your home, as not married.

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