He told me something last night

[Scorpio8]

My partner and I been together since 2018. He told me once that he and his daughters mother lost a baby. The same which happened to me too. I haven't really gone into details of my past as there's still a lot he doesn't know. I won't as it's my past and it's gone.

I'm pregnant and we were laying in bed. He said something just like out of the blue. To be honest didn't actually say much on it just listened to him.
He said no one knows this but my ex and I decided to terminate the first pregnancy and even with my daughter but don't think she wanted too. It was because he wasn't working. Then they had a stillborn and I only said that's sad. He said to me I would of had 3 children 2 boys and girl.

For me it's a bit of a shock but just like wow where did all this come from. Not sure why he opened up like that. I haven't told him the full truth on my first pregnancy as I was young and actually was in a pickle. But he knows I had lost my first.

I said to him you must think you got a new wife here now. I mean I couldn't conceive up until I had laparoscopy in May. Even sex feels weird now but it's like he said your like a new a woman actually feel the same.

I don't feel angry because I haven't told him all my past stuff. But I feel a type of way like wow. I'm learning something new each day about him.

Has your partner/husband just totally come out with something from their past that shocked you?

I have pregnancy worries myself and he doesn't like me saying I think something wrong.

If you have any concerns then it's worth speaking to your doctor/midwife or anyone else that's involved in your care. They should be able to give you some reassurance.

I understand how you feel about him saying they had an abortion and he even considered aborting their other child. What reason did he give for considering aborting his daughter? Were there still financial issues? It is a bit unsavoury that he was like that with two pregnancies.

How has he acted about your own pregnancy?

@OldFan

I have spoken to EPU, Midwife and these days you need to be bleeding to get seen. I really don't want to get started on this because going to have to pay for private scan. I am really angry with EPU.

He has been happy about the pregnancy never thought he would have terminated a pregnancy as he does love kids. He and I were trying for along time then nothing until this year after laparoscopy. I was worried we break up because I couldn't give him a baby. I was really down and very insecure thinking what if he got someone else pregnant.

I understand they were young just a bit of a shock he opened up to me.

Sounds like you both really need to work on communication and trust. Ie trusting each other to see your povs and not judge your respective pasts.

He made a huge step in that direction last night, bit you seem very shut down emotionally in respect to him (as he does you in other examples):
Going for walks alone instead of talking
Not letting him come to scan
Shutting down after your conversation
Saying he doesn't need to know about your past

@SunnyKlara
I think we both haven't told each the full story on a lot of things.
He doesn't need to know every little detail. I was surprised he could of had 3 children with his ex. But suppose I get why they terminated the pregnancy but thought he was always against termination because of his religious beliefs. But I am not mad at all.
I know why he told me he was scared too about pregnancy too
We do have communications issues but think we are getting closer.
There's just a lot with us it's so strange.