So on Thursday night an ex friend of my ex flew over to see us from abroad. Last time I saw him was eight years ago when he stayed with us in my home for a couple of days. This stay then was pleasant.
This “friend” is the only connection my child, now adult, has to his father who is not in my child’s life.
As soon as he gets here I regretted it having offered him to stay in my home. The man is in his fifties so not a young one, was obnoxious and rude to people including myself. Helped himself to my things using up my food and other resources, and telling me repeatedly out of the blue rules don’t apply to him and being selfish is vital, and that he won’t hesitate to take from people if it benefits him. Any topic that came up he had to be right on. Fat shamed people and I was on multiple occasions astounded by his blunt remarks he made to both me and staff at places we visited.
Went into a mood because I would not sleep with him. I repeated that he is a friend to my childs father and it’s not something I just do. Said he liked the look of me and wanted a fwb. Wile man.
three nights into his seven night stay and I have told him to go into a hotel. He was livid and although he has left to a hotel, it wasn’t until after him waltzing all over me over text while I was at work. He sent a last text to say goodbye for good which I replied to saying it was for the best.
why am I writing? Because i feel guilty as I have never had to do this before with anyone, and he was the only connection to my childs father and this invitation was made after he got in contact after eight years, and my child was really looking forward to it.
Has anyone been in this position where they have had to do similar? And why the guilt when the man was clearly rude and lacked general social etiquette? Why the heck do I feel guilty?