I've had an argument with my partner as I feel like we don't spend any time together. We work together and often share a lift. The car journey consists of them glued to their phone or moaning about work.
On weekends they spend at least one entire day with their parents at their parents house indoors. I don't mind calling in for a cup of tea but I'm not comfortable spending all day there. I like to go out and walk in nature. They dislike this and would rather walk around a shopping centre if they go out at all.
Their parents also call them twice a day for at least 30 mins. Their parents haven't got time to visit us because they need to cook and clean the house.
Our house is falling into disarray as I'm now refusing to do everything. Their parents want us to go on holiday with them which I initially agreed to but as it has turned out to be a £3K cruise I'm going to decline. I can't afford it! Their parents also pay their mobile bill. I find this a little strange and wouldn't do this for my own adult children if I had them.
We argue about chores in the evening. I ask them to help me straight after eating but they can't as they want to watch Netflix until 10pm and then help tidy.
They are also struggling to budget. Although they earn more than me I have had to loan them money to pay for holidays. They have paid me back monthly. They always have money for the latest clothes but if the boiler needs fixing they have no money.
There is no intimacy in the relationship and if there is it's usually less than once per month.
I think I need to find some interests that don't involve them as I feel quite resentful. I feel like a taxi driver or roommate. We've only been married a year.
I do love them dearly and appreciate my own space at times but there's no decent interaction of late just bickering.