I'm 36 and 6 months pregnant with my first baby, my partner is a lot older than me and has a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship.
Things are beginning to annoy me, he comes home from work and literally dumps his clothes on the floor and makes a mess around the house. I work nights and do all the cleaning around the house, ok he does do the cooking now and then but a lot of the time he will just get a take away. He doesn't earn that much money and never saves, I'm the saver out of the 2 of us.
We used to have his daughter every weekend but now she's moved 6 hours away and we haven't seen her for 6 months. When we had her every weekend he would literally spoil her and spends a lot of money on her and expects me to take them out everyday to do an activity as he doesn't drive. I get why he spoilt her as he wanted to give her the best time before she left. I drove am hour away to the beach and we was out all day and I said I was tired and wanted to go home but his daughter didn't want to go home and he dictated we go home when his daughter was ready. When I tried explaining that I'm tired and I have to drive as he can't and it's dangerous to drive when tired he accused me of being awkward and ruining their fun. This is just one example of his behaviour most weekends.
She's coming to stay with us soon and I'm hoping things aren't going to be like they used to, but I think this will be make or break for us.
We need to move as we live in a too flat and our tenancy runs out in November and he's not worried about saving for a deposit as he assumes were just use my savings that I saved before I met my partner and expects me to look for a place to stay.
He is getting worried for when I go on maternity leave as he will have to help pay the bills and everything as I will only be getting statutory maternity pay. Also he was shocked when I told him I was having 6 months off and wanted me to go back to work straight away.
When I said I will be going back to work part time once baby is here he wasn't happy, but he works away a lot during the week and I can't leave the baby with anyone or want to as I work nights.
He wants to be the stay at home dad and I said no as I'll be coming home from a night shift and tidying up his mess as he is old school and believes the woman should clean.
I'm just soo confused and I'm not sure if it's hormones but I feel like leaving him as he doesn't help around the flat or with baby shopping I have gone out and brought a lot and he hasn't even offered to pay for any of the items.
I feel like I would probably be better on my own raising this baby as I feel alone even though I'm in a relationship. He refuses to sleep in the same bed as I have started snoring since pregnancy and I have to beg him to make love to me. I just feel neglected and unloved. Is my thinking unreasonable