Hating the inlaws

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Does anyone DH hate their in-laws?
Mine can't handle texts, seeing them or hearing about them and I just don't know how to manage. When they text him to wish him Happy birthday for example, he explosed with rage, can't sleep and is in fowl humour

Sounds a bit like he is trying to separate you from them. He gets upset/annoyed so you reduce/stop contact with them.

Are They nice to him?

from the outside I would probably look like I was unresponsive and unreasonable but I’ve had 15 years of them being nasty snidely and gossipy so I am done

On the other hand - maybe he’s being an asshole man?

This dynamic certainly predates your arrival.

Why does he hate these people so?. Has he tried to talk to you or anybody else about his childhood?.

What do you think of them and your H's reactions to them contacting him?. Has he never tried to block them from contacting him or if so do they then just go through you?.

He hates your family or his family? What’s the issue with them?

Why does he hate them?

We lived with them for 2 years and there were quite a few comments made to him, I believe, in relation to his job, salary etc and his confidence has taken a hit