Forgive or move on?

[blueloft]

we have been together for 8 months, my partner has been single for the past 10 years and insisted he was ready to be in a committed relationship. I found out he was sending inappropriate messages to a female he was seeing a couple of years ago - they remained friends as they work together however the messages were disrespectful to me.

I’ve confronted him, though he apologised he hasn’t shown much remorse or done much to suggest change. He said they remained inappropriate as that’s what he was used to with them and he’s been single for so long it “slipped” his mind but he was sorry. I also confronted the woman who said nothing physical happened, she is in a relationship and that she thinks he really cares about me and just isn’t used to being with someone. All terrible excuses, I’m unsure what to do with it. He has been great otherwise, I’d never think he would do anything like it, if anything he was more keen on me than I was on him! But naturally I’m hurt.

do I forgive and move on or do I end it?

end it....I mean why even ask?

Move on. You’ll never have peace of mind with a man like that.

Ugh what a messy pair. I'd leave them to their inappropriate messaging and move on.

Move on. Leave them to their messaging.

End it and Move on, Slipped his mind! What a pathetic excuse if there ever was one.
Men like this won't change, I expect this is the reason he's been single for so long.

Slipped his mind……come on!!

Slipped his mind? Really???

Move on. It's only been 8 months and he's already acting like a child. The inappropriate messaging is a habit for them both, and habits are hard to break.

If you stay with him, you'll always have doubts in the back of your mind. And if it's not this woman, it'll be someone else.

Get on now whilst you're not too heavily invested. The longer you stay with him, the more insecure he's going to make you feel, and the harder it will be for you to walk away.

What did he say which was disrespectful?

You already know

Is he 16?
Seriously op aren't you worth more?

Move on. You deserve better than to be something that slipped someone's mind.

dump and move on

Forgive this and you're on a steep slope to hell. How the fuck do you forget you're not single anymore?

Massively disrespectful.

Yuck.

Move on.

You are wasting your time.

You deserve better.

It definitely does not slip a man's mind (or a woman's for that matter)

I'd put plenty of money that there is still something going on.

Tell him to jog on

You're so meaningless to him that being in a relationship with you 'slipped his mind' ?

And you're asking if you should 'move on' and forgive him ?

Really ??

How low is your bar for how a man treats you ?

Ick. End it.

Expect the best, keep the bar much, much higher than men like this.

End it. He’ll definitely do it again. I’m sorry.