Does anyone elses brother in law flirt with them all the time?

[BellaRambo]

My Brother in law is always flirting with me, making jokes like he's in love with me and how we should run away togther. Its done in a pretty jokey way but when he's had a drink he is always trying to touch me, hug me, kiss me on the face or neck. Everyone just laughs it off and I do too but I sometimes wonder if there is anything behind it?
He is married now and I am married to his slightly older brother we have all known each other since we were teenagers so perhaps he had a small crush on me back then?

Anyone elses brother in law act like this towards them?

Flirting, touching, kissing your neck? I bet his Wife feels utterly humiliated.

No!!!!
!!!!!!!

This is so disrespectful

Not normal. You know that.

Oh come on op, don't be silly. You must know how society works by now. Faux confusion.

Bleurgh.

Not normal or acceptable at all.

And just as fucking weird that they all laugh at him sexually harassing you and physically touching you when you clearly don't want him to!

Your husband isn't exactly being protective or putting you first here, is he?! I'm presuming you've told him how uncomfortable it makes you?

Sorry your BIL has been doing this, you must dread get togethers.

No never! How disrespectful to his brother! What does his own wife think of this behaviour? I'm surprised you just laugh it off. I'd have nipped that in the bud the first time it happened or I wouldn't be attending family events. That's way over the line.

Eugh no. BIL or not, anyone kissing and touching you when you don't want them to is just wrong.

Don't feel any shame in telling him to stop because you don't like it. He is doing this publicly and relying on the fact that he's done if for ages and you haven't stopped him and his family laugh - he is getting away with sexual harrassment in plain site, helped on by his family, including your husband.

If my DH say his brother treating me like this he would tell him in no uncertain terms to stop. He would also not expect me to spend time with him in future. Why doesn't your husband care?

What does your husband think about this? Several others have asked and been ignored.

Are you secretly flattered and not putting appropriate boundaries in place?

Myself and my bestie's brother used to have 'banter'. It was harmless flirty fun. There were no other partners or spouses on the scene then. As soon as there were, it all stopped.

He is an ex brother in law. My sister finally found out he was playing around. I made sure I was never alone with him, he made me feel very uncomfortable.

Not remotely normal or acceptable behaviour.

Sharpen up your boundaries and tell him to get to fuck!

My brother in law made a pass at me when he stayed here last time
.I toldy husband straight away..now he's back my husband is out with him said they've discussed it and decided to draw a line under it..am I wrong for feeling let down by my husband as he doesn't want to discuss it with me