Lost my sex drive completely and I think it's because DP acts like a teenager

[DysonDynamite]

I really don't want to discuss this with my friends, and I wondered if anyone else has this same issue or any advice.

I'm 25, my partner is 28. We have started living together as of 5+ months ago, and day to day we get on great, never stop laughing and no other issues. But I just don't want to have sex with him. His humour is winding me up, baby talking, being in my way when I asked him to get out of it, so for example, if I'm cooking he'll come over and tickle me or stand above me and make a joke and I have to ask continuously for him to move because I just feel overstimulated.

Our sex life used to be amazing. But now I live with him, having to do most of the housework due to our work schedules, picking up after him, having to tell him what to use for his skin (he has skin issues) and recommending him skin products or giving him mine, looking after him, all of these things just makes me feel like I'm his mother, and I see sex as a chore now. I think he is handsome as hell, but I feel like seeing him in this realistic light has shifted things for me. I much prefer to do it solo or miss when I was single.

Now, by no means am I saying he doesn't look after me in some ways or anything like that, but I'm the one that has this issue, not him. I don't know if maybe it's the honeymoon phase has settled down, but I'd really like some help before I drive my relationship into the ground.

I've spoken to him about it before, but then he'll list anytime I've laughed at it and it's not been an issue, or give me the "I'll never do it ever again, sorry" and basically seem very hurt by it, to which I apologise for being rash.

He is irresponsible & very manipulative.
Surprise me - after he's said "I'll never do it again, sorry" ... he does it again, right?

He will just get more and more annoying until the very sound of his breathing makes you want to punch him in the face. Don't do this to yourself.

This is how you feel after 5 months of living together - you should still be in the honeymoon period.

It sounds to me like he feels he’s got you now you have moved in and he can give up trying to be an adult and has reverted to being a man child ( which he probably was all along) and he is now treating you like a surrogate parent ( responsible for providing him with housekeeping life admin and skin care - wtf!) with sex thrown in.

He sounds totally oblivious to your feelings and needs and is completely manipulating you and gaslighting - turning your perfectly valid feelings back on you and making you feel guilty about bringing it up. Maybe he feels because he is good looking you should be happy to unconditionally adore him look after and parent him with no regard to your emotional well-being.

Ask yourself if this is how you see the rest of your life ?

I experienced this with a partner. We thankfully never moved in together. But his lack of life skills made me feel maternal (not in a good way), the relationship swiftly became sexless, and he ended up cheating on me with someone he was able to fool. He is 47 and lives with his mother. We are no longer in contact.