Crazy or justified....

[Jst91]

So at the start of our relationship oh and I would have known each others phone passwords etc, this changed a few years ago. He's walked out of the relationship a few times, first time openly admitted to texting his ex nothing in it fair enough. Another time I know he had sent at least one message to someone else but didn't admit this one. Fast forward to now, excuse the tmi 🤭🤭 at his family members house he was on the loo on his phone I said are you coming down he said no I'm not done so I grabbed his phone out of his hand he was on fb so I went into his messages to see what he would do.. well he was straight off the loo standing over me to see what I was doing then let me get so far started covering my eyes then snatched the phone away .. now am I being toxic and overthinking or is this shady ?

I don’t know what is up in your relationship but it’s just not right for you sis… You feel the need to police him and that means you don’t trust him. That’s no life for you. You deserve a man you can trust. A man you don’t have to snatch a phone from.

This just isn’t right for you and you know it. He can do whatever but it’s time to think about you.

What do YOU want? What do YOU deserve?

I am willing to bet you’re worth more than a life with a man who you can’t trust and have to LITERALLY grab a phone off of while he is on the crapper… at another persons home no less.

You deserve better and can’t be forced to cate enough to give it to you. Give it to yourself and release yourself from this toxicity

typo but you cannot make someone be good to you. You just cant. You just need to be good to yourself

It doesn't matter if its crazy or justified he doesn't want you to see his messages.
Would you let him see yours? Have you ever slagged him off over messages? IS there anything else making you think he's up to no good?

If you are just grabbing his phone for a little look over his private messages I understand him being pissed off.

But covering your eyes is a bit dodgy. What has he said since?

You grabbed his phone ‘out of his hand’?

You’re the crazy one. You obviously don’t trust him. This relationship is done.

Wouldn't say police him .. I never touch his phone.. more of the fact I always say if he didn't have his phone he wouldn't spend 40minutes in the toilet I took it off him and didn't even go into any messages just scrolled to see his reaction 🤣🤣

But you do. There might. E a very valid reason you do, but you have to admit that to yourself .

how the hell would you even know how long he was in the bathroom if you weren’t keeping track? That’s policing babe. It’s when you are on high alert and feel the need to investigate. Which is what you did.

I hope you have the capacity to admit this to yourself and also the insight to realize that you deserve better than timing a man on the toilet.

Love yourself .

Men have been spending 40 minutes in the toilet since the beginning of time.

And I agree with the other PP, get rid and find someone you can trust enough to respect their privacy

I can’t get into DH’s phone, and he can’t get into mine. I’ve nothing to hide, and I doubt DH has, but everyone has a right to privacy now.
As for your DP, you don’t trust him, so it’s time to end it.