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I recently met a fantastic man. Good looking, single, funny, etc. Just great and we get on brilliantly. I knew he was gay from the outset and he has been very open with me about his sexuality. We’ve known each other for a couple of years now, speak on the phone every other day, text a lot, etc. It’s been pretty flirty but secure in the knowledge that it was just fun. In my mind it’s been a joyful new friendship as I have known from the start that it couldn’t be anything else.
We were out for dinner the other night and he told me that he was crazy about me, that he was falling in love with me, that he wanted to kiss me and go to bed with me. We ended up back at his place and kissed for hours. It was lovely, but we didn’t take it further, We talked and talked, including about the possibility of a relationship. He was adamant that most peoples sexuality is somewhere on the Kinsey spectrum and sometimes life throws a curveball they don’t expect. He’s never been with a woman before but truly believes that we have something and can be happy together. He also says he has talked to a couple of close male friends who have urged him on and told him not to waste a chance at love.
For my part, I do fancy him and we have a pan amazing connection, no question about that. If I didn’t know he was gay I could fall for him in a nanosecond and would definitely have slept with him, it’s the only thing holding me back. But I can’t get past the idea that a gay man can’t just turn straight for the right girl. It’s abhorrent and smacks of conversion therapy. We’re both in our late 30s and he is completely out to his friends and family with no issues so this isn’t about repressing himself or hiding in the closet. In fact I think a relationship with a woman would actually be a difficult thing for him to navigate. I really think he means it and he couches it all in the words of love and relationships not sex. But I can’t see how a man who is turned on by other men can suddenly be sexually satisfied with a woman, surely there will always be a missing piece. I just feel like there is a big fat broken heart around the corner, probably for both of us.
What do I do?