We're both teachers and so have a preschooler and a 7 year old at home with us over the summer holidays.
By week 3/4 it's all starting to become a bit of a strain as it usually is. All spending lots of time together and it's difficult to get away to do our own things although I did go clothes shopping alone for a full day this week.
The children want entertaining constantly and I am getting fed up of DHs definition of cleaning and tidying. I keep suggesting he go off and have a day to himself but he's always here being irritable and on his phone. He may aswell spend the time on his own to re-energise and then atleast he might stay off his phone for an hour or two!
Starting to wish we had paid for a holiday club to give us a bit of respite- I also think a day of holiday club here and there may have been cheaper than days out. We're doing as many free things as possible but it's costing us in fuel and ice creams.
I'm a member at a gym so go there once or twice a week, meet a friend once a week on my own, but feel guilty leaving DH with the kids a lot as he's taken no time for himself at all. But I think we're all now getting a bit fed up of each other's company and fed up of finding stuff to do.
The older one complains about everything we're not doing rather than being grateful what we are doing.
We don't really have much structure during the summer holidays and we're going with the flow a lot as this is what DH prefers to do but I'll be honest, I'm starting to crave a bit of structure, wanting to be more productive and proactive with our time, also a bit fed up of spending so much time together as a 4! This is always the case each summer.
DH has serious FOMO so if I suggest taking the children out so he can catch up on some much needed jobs at home, he would prefer to down tools and come with us. He's wanting to go out as a 4 every day. It's a bit much. Being together as a 4 constantly is a bit stressful. In previous years I've drawn up a bit of a calender and plotted in lots of different things along with down time for each of us but DH just disengages with it and doesn't take the down time, preferring to join us on days out- I'm a bit tired of his constant wittering and need a break from it!
Any suggestions on how to get through the holidays better?
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6 week holidays are a strain
Eggsontoasty · 06/08/2022 09:12
Eggsontoasty · 06/08/2022 09:12
We're both teachers and so have a preschooler and a 7 year old at home with us over the summer holidays.
By week 3/4 it's all starting to become a bit of a strain as it usually is. All spending lots of time together and it's difficult to get away to do our own things although I did go clothes shopping alone for a full day this week.
The children want entertaining constantly and I am getting fed up of DHs definition of cleaning and tidying. I keep suggesting he go off and have a day to himself but he's always here being irritable and on his phone. He may aswell spend the time on his own to re-energise and then atleast he might stay off his phone for an hour or two!
Starting to wish we had paid for a holiday club to give us a bit of respite- I also think a day of holiday club here and there may have been cheaper than days out. We're doing as many free things as possible but it's costing us in fuel and ice creams.
I'm a member at a gym so go there once or twice a week, meet a friend once a week on my own, but feel guilty leaving DH with the kids a lot as he's taken no time for himself at all. But I think we're all now getting a bit fed up of each other's company and fed up of finding stuff to do.
The older one complains about everything we're not doing rather than being grateful what we are doing.
We don't really have much structure during the summer holidays and we're going with the flow a lot as this is what DH prefers to do but I'll be honest, I'm starting to crave a bit of structure, wanting to be more productive and proactive with our time, also a bit fed up of spending so much time together as a 4! This is always the case each summer.
DH has serious FOMO so if I suggest taking the children out so he can catch up on some much needed jobs at home, he would prefer to down tools and come with us. He's wanting to go out as a 4 every day. It's a bit much. Being together as a 4 constantly is a bit stressful. In previous years I've drawn up a bit of a calender and plotted in lots of different things along with down time for each of us but DH just disengages with it and doesn't take the down time, preferring to join us on days out- I'm a bit tired of his constant wittering and need a break from it!
Any suggestions on how to get through the holidays better?
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