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He is bloody having sex with a sex worker

10 replies

lOPAA · 06/08/2022 00:28

I feel sick. Please help. He's been coming home late. Sometimes not coming home at all. I've tracked him to a sex house (advised on line as such).

I lost. I love him.

OP posts:
Bunty55 · 06/08/2022 00:30

What do you want to do OP? Do you have children?

Original poster
lOPAA · 06/08/2022 00:38

Yes, 2 children. I've 4

OP posts:
CrossStichQueen · 06/08/2022 00:41

I dont mean to minimise this awful situation but a sex house?
Are you in the UK?
While my knowledge of brothels is minimal I don't think they have themselves listed on Google maps and generally men do not stay there all night its more an hourly thing...or so I thought??

Regardless of my questions as MN always advises you must get your ducks in a row if you are choosing to leave probably before you mention to him you know he's a sleaze bag.

RJnomore1 · 06/08/2022 00:42

I imagine you’re in shock but you need to reframe this. You haven’t lost you have done. You have found out what he is. He is no prize. You can now figure how you move on.

you lose if you don’t know, and he brings home an STI, wastes money on it, or even just continues disrespecting you and not being fully commited to your relationship.

theniceunderstandingone · 06/08/2022 00:42

Also get yourself check for STIs just in case he has anything swimming around his...nether regions
Sorry to read this OP

theniceunderstandingone · 06/08/2022 00:42

*checked

Bunty55 · 06/08/2022 00:48

It sounds like he has checked out of your marriage. You need to think of your children and remember that while you love him he is out fucking other women so he does not love you. I am sorry if that sounds harsh but it is true

caringcarer · 06/08/2022 00:55

Yes most definitely get a STI test. Don't be like Coleen and take him back because he will just do it again and again. Sort out your finances and get ducks in a row. Check out solicitor before you tell him you know. No matter how upset and angry you are do not let him know you know what he is doing or he will hide finances.

autocollantes · 06/08/2022 01:13

caringcarer · 06/08/2022 00:55

Yes most definitely get a STI test. Don't be like Coleen and take him back because he will just do it again and again. Sort out your finances and get ducks in a row. Check out solicitor before you tell him you know. No matter how upset and angry you are do not let him know you know what he is doing or he will hide finances.

This.

suchasadcliche · 06/08/2022 01:25

Sorry op. Me too. Its shit. If he is staying out all night have you considered drugs? Most men don't stay long with these girls and the awful truth i discovered over the last 3 months is that the majority of married men that use sex workers do it over their lunch hour / way home from work so their wives literally never know. Lots do 15 or 30 minute appointments. Its so gross and i still feel sick when i think of it.

My husband was having much longer appointments because he was taking drugs with them. Sadly that is really common too.

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