Feeling lonely

[Emilyh92]

Hi all,

Bit of a miserable post but just wondering if anyone is feeling like I am.

I’m 13 weeks pregnant with our first. Don’t get me wrong I couldn’t be happier with the pregnancy, this is a much wanted IVF baby and I’m so excited. But my partner just isn’t seeming to understand or care about my feelings very much lately.

He goes out to the pub almost every weekend leaving me at home alone, I wouldn’t mind once in a while but it seems like it’s a lot. And “a few drinks” always turns into him being out until 2/3/6am as he never knows when to call it a day.

He’s out again tonight, and seeing as he is away in Bristol for a friends birthday tomorrow I thought he would have wanted to spend some time with me tonight, but no.

I’m just tired of being left behind at home, sitting here watching Tv with the dogs waiting for him to come home. Am I being unreasonable?

I feel ya. I felt exactly the same with my pregnancy, I had the hype of being pregnant but felt lonely once I realised that I would be staying in on my own and baby daddy wanted to go out, all the time!
Perhaps try booking a dinner or putting your time into his weekly outings by making plans in stone. Would that help? Say I've booked us dinner for Tuesday at X that way he knows he has to be there. Or just tell him that you need more time with him.

And no you're not being unreasonable. I found it lonely being pregnant at times too. I think most do who I've spoken with at Mums Club.

Ask him if how long he intends to carry on this behaviour as in when baby arrives. Just ask him to be honest so you can make the right decisions for you and baby. Say all this, make him realise now that you are not going to be a single parent in a supposed relationship.

Either you are in this together or you go forward as separate parents of the same child. You need to make decisions about work you need to know he owes you that much at least.