Honeymoon stage? Completely deluded!

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My husband had an affair with a work colleague, told me how unhappy he was in our marriage. Some big things like not enough sex but couple that with him working with his AP for at least two years and I feel emotionally detaching from me to you didn’t watch the same shows as me and she did…
We have tried to reconcile as breaking up our family fills me with dread (dc involved) but I just feel like my DH expects me to put the work in in order to salvage our marriage when inside I am broken by the way he compared me to the OW and said how unhappy I made him. And then last night, he said, during a discussion about why I had so little faith in our marriage and what it stood for, that we should be in the honeymoon stage again! On what planet would that be even feasible?!
Many thanks for reading.

Unless you think you can reach a place where the affair is totally behind both of you, and you can both show your children that your marriage is loving and happy, I wouldn't even bother trying.

My father had countless affairs when I was a child - my mother always paid lip service that she had 'forgiven' him, but in her heart she never did and she became more obviously vocal and bitter about it as myself and my two brothers got older. It was a horrible atmosphere to grow up in. My father finally left my mother for another woman 6 months after my younger brother turned 18...