He has problems

[whitebunnies]

I feel a bit low. I joined a social group and the group organiser just seems to vents about his problems all of the time publicly on his profile, the group, group chats and messaging me and others. He has had a few dysfunctional relationships that he dwells on, hates his job but won't leave, jealous of other guys who speak to women he is interested in, has anxiety, has Aspergers Syndrome which he struggles with and health issues. Now I am not criticising him for having Aspergers and health issues as that is not nice to experience. Even the group chats the group members just moan about how they hate being single.

I feel annoyed with myself as I started to like this man as he likes spirituality and I don't meet many men like this but I can't be falling for people and being friends with people who just want to moan and not take action with their life. He has told me he really likes me but I just feel if we did have a relationship it would be clouded with his problems.

I feel unhappy whereas before I met this man I was very happy having a great life.

If you were happier before you met him then distance yourself from the group and him. Yes you might both have an attraction there but if you’re unhappy now before you’ve even started any sort of relationship then there’s really no point!
This part of a potential new relationship should be fun, exciting and make you want to speak to them more. There will always be a time when someone moans and wants to vent but if it’s really getting you down then you shouldn’t be around him. Politely tell him
you’re not interested/ right for each other and maybe find a different group of people to chat to.

Take a step back - this man has turned you from a happy to unhappy person - the complete opposite from what joining a social club is meant to achieve

Disengage politely but asap and find another social club

He has told me he really likes me but I just feel if we did have a relationship it would be clouded with his problems.
Relationships don't have to happen because a man expresses a desire to be in one with you. Congratulate yourself on your good instincts & steer clear of this man - you owe him nothing. Also - he sounds like a pain in the arse.

I feel unhappy whereas before I met this man I was very happy having a great life.
What is making you unhappy?
This man is problematic & annoying. That's nothing to do with you - why would you be unhappy about it?

Even the group chats the group members just moan about how they hate being single.
What, frankly, are YOU getting out of being in the group? It doesn't sound like social fun or support, it sounds like a sea of negativity & an outlet for the organiser's neediness & self-absorption. You are not obliged to stay a member of the group if you're not getting any benefit from it. Why not walk away, & forget about it?

Disengage completely and find another social group. You are not a rehab centre for such a person. To me also it sounds like he targeted you and deliberately so as well.

Just walk away. Not even sure why you're posting; you're in a situation you don't like and are not obliged to stay in. What's the problem? It's like posting to say 'I don't like this T shirt I've got on.'

Just change it.