He is slowly turning into a psycopath

[Cluelessever]

My H was sweet with me for first 10yrs and then I found out that he had taken major financial decissions without saing anything to me about it ( had written off all savings to his sister and bought her a big house). Yes, he earns 90% of our household income, but we have a family. When I found out I was livid and asked why the f he did that... he said ' so what, I love my sister and she would do the same'.... that sister has NEVER given anything to anyone... she is a taker and she maupulates him. She has NEVER EVER given.

Since then my H has slowly turned against me and stareted to hate me and beleives 100% that I am stupid and I righfully belong in a mental unstability asylum. From sweet to this in 2 yrs , it escalated pretty quickly after I questioned him. He is a VERY bitter person to me now so much so that my good dreams are all about divorce. I am financially trapped but I see myself out of this marriage in next 5 yrs time ( may be some saving from my part time small job).

This incident happened today and it shook me:
Today I was cleaning the floor as I had planned something and it needs to be cleaned and he drank his juice clumsily and I told him politely, he moped that area. After moping, he sits down and then drinks more juice which spilled everywhere and he got another glass and the mess was everywhere.. I dont know if he did it wantedly or he is a very unconcious person not noticing what he is doing ?!?!. He then casually converses with me as if nothing happened...and goes on doing his work.

Is there ANY chance that he did not realise what he dis when he moped the floor just 5 min ago for the same reason?

I am so scared that I am living with a psycopath

You need to make plans to be away from him sooner. Even without today's events (and it does sounds as though he did that on purpose and is trying to wind you up for his weird enjoyment).

Can you really not get away sooner? Can you get a session with a solicitor to find out exactly how things would stand? Don't tell him what you're thinking until you have to.

Moped?

She means mopped don’t be pedantic

Nobody turns into a psychopath.
I suspect he was happy to be nice to you until you challenged him. He’s just showing you who he really is now.
Are you in The UK? Are you legally married?

So he’s shifted assets away? Get thee to a solicitor. You are not as trapped as you think.

my ex went like this, over money, too. And would hide things, break things, and pretend he hadn’t. Even when I SAW him do it.

She very obviously meant mopped.

Why post something shitty to someone struggling? Very odd behaviour.

OP this sounds suspiciously like he's trying to transfer assets so that they aren't marital ones anymore.

Do not trust this man and don't waste five more years with his escalating cruelty which will also affect your children who are now being raised in a toxic household.

🙄Calm down. Wasn't trying to be shitty, I genuinely couldn't make sense of it.

I agree with PP's suggestion of a solicitor, op. Telling you that you belong in an asylum just because you dared to question him is his way of gaslighting you.
Are there any family members or close friends you can confide in about this?

Women's Aid is always available for a chat and can help you to make sense of your situation

Sure it’s his sister?

OP go see a solicitor as fast as you can!

He thinks he is clever hiding assets that you are legally entitled to by 'giving' it to his sister but he isn't. Go get legal advice and fight back!

Don't waste 5 more years of your life either. He did absolutely spill on the floor on purpose because he knew you wouldn't do anything about it. He thinks you are stupid and weak.

Show him he is wrong. Report the abuse to Police on 101 and start divorce proceedings. You are entitled to child maintenance and benefits when you are single, you can manage without him.

I think you need legal advice. I don't think he's "given" his sister all the family savings, I think he's put it out of your reach in a divorce settlement.

Thankyou all.

Yes its his own sister.. I seen the papers by accident on her dining table when I visted his sister's place while having dinner! ( why they were there?.. go figure)

I need an exit plan and it wont be soon enough I would want. I will see if I can afford a solicitor ( may 2-3 sessions, not more than that.

If that was a mental manupulation... it scared the hell outta me I should say. Scared enough to want to do something about it.

Who is the registered owner of his sister’s house at the land Registry ?You can check online, I think it costs about £5. You should print or somehow save this as evidence.
Im afraid he’s just showing you what he’s really like and unless he has really bad co-ordination his juice spilling was deliberate. They start in small ways to annoy you, things that could just be genuine mistakes, to see how far they can push. Then it’s a bit more each time.
Check the Land Registry and speak to a solicitor.

Sorry, I think Land Registry prices have increased since I last used it.
Here’s the link which will help you decide which I fo you need to look at. search-property-information.service.gov.uk/search/