At my wits end

[Narcmotherhelp]

Hello. This may seem long winded and abit of a moan, not really sure what I'll get from this but I am getting to the end of my teather to be honest.


We live in a lovely caldi-sac, majority of our neighbours are amazing and I consider them family. We have a house in the street who have a 4, almost 5 year old child.

I'll try to keep this as short as possible.


Now their little boy comes around, but I have had to put a stop to this as he has been spitting, telling my daughter and her other friends mean things (I'll stab you etc, etc), swearing and just overall abit too much.


He is left to his own devices majority of the day and will swing on our front gate and call her, will come in the garden whilst I have explained this is not okay as I have small dogs running free and my daughter doesn't want to play right now.
Not a peep from the parents who do not leave the house, but when he has taken toys from our garden and ran into his house with them, I have heard the parents say 'he doesn't understand' and plaster all over social media about his 'autism' journey.


He is left to run up, down and across the street without supervision. Has been going though our own and neighbours bins, plays with rubbish, knocks houses and then runs away and will follow people up and down the street. Once again, not a word from parents. I have had to shout across to him multiple times when he has run in front of cars, was putting his face into our neighbours fence who own an unfriendly dog.


The parents are not approachable and have twist everything back to 'he doesn't understand, it's his autism and adhd' and will blast you on social media. Now I know people will call be a cow with me saying that, I am not saying he doesn't have what the parents are claiming. But to constantly post (when I had them as friends on social media) about this, and then let him unsupervised almost all day is wrong.


I don't know what to do. We take other neighbours along with us on walks and days out, and have always been friendly and allowed our garden to be open to the children but now it is too much.


As I was writing this he has come in our garden and taken our ball and he and the parents refused to give it back! I have had a titfull and not sure what I can do.

[Quitelikeit]

I would report this to his school or SS. The family could clearly do with some support to manage his behaviour. His lack of supervision is worrying.

however I would also welcome him as I couldn’t turn my back on a five year old under those circumstances

[TheLadyofShalott1]

Oh dear, I am not sure what you can do, except it sounds like a safe guarding issue to me. I wouldn't have let my NT or ND children play outside unsupervised at that age, and if the child really does have Autism he should definitely not be doing that. So as the parents won't take any notice of you, I think you had better call SS about him. Good luck OP, and thank you for caring x

[Narcmotherhelp]

I have tried in the past, but as soon as he comes over his behaviour turns appauling and the parents arent the most approachable and i have seen with my own eyes they exagerate things, I am scared of something happening such as a fall or a comment and the parents twisitng it and making an awful accusation. So I feel thats not in my best intrest currently

[Narcmotherhelp]

I am not sure on the law of this as i get mixed responses, but i have been looking to gather evidence via my dash cam as it points down the street and across our road. All our neighbours say the same that is it ridiculous and appaling so would hope they woukd provide evidence too should it be taken forward.

[SparklingLime]

You don’t have to be sure of the law, you just need to tell SS/school what is happening and they can decide what if anything to do. It is clear neglect as the four-year-old is at risk wandering around unsupervised.

[Narcmotherhelp]

Thats true. I just worry as their other childreb have been brought home after going 'missing'. Theyre allowed to go around our esate with friends, they are 11 and 8. Police brougt them back but nothing ever raised.

[ImaniMumsnet]

Hi OP, we are closing this thread as there seems to be another one in the AIBU topic.