Think I'm being ghosted by close friend

[Mama234567]

I'm so sad. My friend previously spent so much time at my house with my family. She was like an aunt to my son. I was so happy for her when she met someone and got pregnant but I've only seen her three times in almost a year and there's always an excuse from her as to why she can't meet up. She has not messaged me first once or tried to arrange anything in the last year and given me 2 excuses over the past 2 weeks so I've just left it at an open offer to let me know when she's free but I just have a gut feeling if I never messaged her again that would be it. I don't understand why she doesn't miss me like I miss her 😕 and I also feel a bit hurt on behalf of my son as he loved her too.

Not sure what I want from this thread really maybe hoping that others will understand how I feel.

It’s concerning that this change has happened since she met her new partner.

Could it be control/abuse?

I reckon she's just immersed in life. Two big things there, new relationship and child. Both change friendship dynamics. The hurt is from that. My advice is, leave it open and fill your time elsewhere. Sadly no person ever walks our path with us 100% and you mustn't look for that. But spend time with others and do new things too, to fill up your spaces, and take time to be your own friend too for a bit. Someone else will come along, something else will happen and I bet in amongst it all, you meet up with her again. Life is long, and things change. Learn to flex, that's my advice. This could just be a patch.

Thanks for your replies. I know you can never tell 100% but I don't think she's being abused.

OP, this quote would get my spidey senses up.....

"I've only seen her three times in almost a year and there's always an excuse from her as to why she can't meet up."

Especially in the light of this...

"My friend previously spent so much time at my house with my family. She was like an aunt to my son."

I can't tell you what to do but please don't abandon her.

I was abused as a young mother. The shame keeps you from reaching out. (Until I did).

Your friend is pregnant and probably feeling rubbish. Rather than suggesting to meet up. Ask how she is but dont put any other demands on her than that. Just be chatty and see how that goes.