Should I forget these friendships and move on?

[Winniethewitchy]

Has anyone else found their friendships with their best friends suffer since having a family? I have best friends who all have children of a similar ages to mine, but we never seem to get together. Despite taking about getting together. One of my best friends lives around 40 mins away from me, but we never see each other. She seems to always be socialising with her husbands friends, i feel like giving up trying. If i don't try to plan anything, then it can go months without seeing them. When we do try to organise stuff without the kids almost always most drop out and the plans get cancelled. Do you think the friendship might be over? I had always imagined my children being close with my best friends children but this just hasn't worked put that way. Is it time to focus on some new friendships? I seem to see the mums of my childs friends more than my own. Although they are quick becoming new friends.
To give context, I've seen one of my best friends 3 times in 12 months.
Does this happen to other people? Does it come back around?

I think this is common with all friends, not just after having a family.

No one really discusses friend break-ups or friends drifting apart but it can often feel just as bad as a romantic break-up.

If I were you, I'd just take a step back. You're just going to drive yourself mad if you are always the one organising things in order t maintain the friendship.

Unfortunately, people get busy in life, they develop new friendship groups, priorities change, new connections form, old connections break.

Sounds like you're starting to form a nice bond with the mums of your child's friends so I'd focus on that.

I think you need to look at the friendships you have and their purpose.

I have four best friends. Two from school, one lives 3 hours away and the other 30 mins away. We speak everyday in our group chat but see each other 3/4 times a year. I have a child, one 3 hours away is expecting and the other has no children, however, when we meet up it's like nothing has changed.

One is a friend I used to work with, we speak throughout the day but again see each other one every two months. She has two children so I understand.

Other lives 2 mins away with 2 children we see each other often but always a last minute plan.

Each friend are completely different and we all put the same amount of effort in.